EMOTIONAL STRENGTH

EMOTIONAL STRENGTH

All parents take pride in saying that their children are intelligent. High intelligence and the ability to get good marks at school are considered sure signs for success in a child's future life. Is this true?

Only to some extent, say experts. It is of course true that children need to be good in their studies. Anyway, to ensure their success in life, yet another factor is essential, which is getting proper hold on their emotions. Psychologists have identified this as a distinct mental faculty, and name it "emotional intelligence".

To put in simple terms, this is the capacity to control one's emotions in the face of problems. Most children (and adults, too) cry when they are sad, or throw tantrums when they are angry. Maybe that's the easiest way to give vent to one's feelings, but making a show of one's emotions is definitely not the way to success in one's life. How can one learn to face problems in a level-headed manner? Emotional intelligence is something that can be developed through proper conditioning and nurturing. One way to achieve this is through encouraging friendships and socializing. While interacting with other children, for instance, children learn the value of compromise and sharing. They also learn to respect the needs and feelings of others.

Children should also be encouraged to take their own decisions, and act upon them. It is perfectly okay if they make mistakes or fail, at times. What is important is to develop an independent mind that can work authoritatively, act decisively and take setbacks in its stride. It is in strong, independent, self-confident minds that emotional intelligence develops the best.